Friday, October 15, 2010

A Day to Remember

One in four pregnancies end in loss. 

That statistic has always taken my breath away.  It is a staggering number isn't it?  It reminds us of how BIG pregnancy loss is, and how common it is, but the numbers also miss the smaller picture.  The smaller picture of each individual woman, each family, each baby, each broken heart. 

Today is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, and I'm thankful for a day to remember and a day to celebrate the individual lives of my four babies.  It may seem strange to use the word celebrate for something so sad, but over the years of healing, I'm able to see the beautiful ways God has used their sweet, short lives to bless and impact other people, and to shape and change their Mama for good. 

Thank you, Lord, for David, Micah, James, and Sarah.  Thank you for who they are!  Thank you for the beautiful mark they have left on my heart and the ways you are using our story to point other people to this truth:

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.  - Psalm 147:3

Today is a perfect opportunity for you to find one of those individual women and let them now you are remembering with them.  One of the secret fears inside their hurting heart is that they are the only one who remembers. 

Also, one of my very favorite bloggers- Shannon from Bless Our Nest is hosting a giveaway of my book on her blog today in memory of her niece, Reece.  You will love her blog!  If you are here from Shannon's blog today, welcome!  I was so hoping my new website would be finished so I could have a better welcome for you all, but it is still in the design stages so I hope you'll still make your selves at home here on my blog.  You can also find me on Twitter here and the book on Facebook here

Thank you to everyone for helping me remember today.  I have great treasure waiting for me in Heaven, and I'm so grateful to be the mother of all of my babies.   



andreawilliams said...

thinking about all of the sweet babies today who we will never watch grow. He gives me comfort today and everyday to accept the things I do not understand.

Katy said...

I bet those precious babies are bouncing on Papa's knees praising Jesus! Thank you for your ministry Becky! Love you!

Anonymous said...

I can not wait to read your book.

Hilty Sprouts said...

We love you and remember with you. I'm so thankful for your courage and your willingness to share God's hope and help with other moms!

The Jernigan Family said...

I hear you Becky. When I was in the hospital on bedrest waiting for Sage, I got to be really good friends with 2 of the other mother's on the ward. And you were right, I knew out of the 3 of us, something bad was going to happen. My friend Ashley lost her baby 26 hours after she was born. My other friend was in the NICU for a month, and Sage even though small had no real health problems. I think about that often, and how I knew out of the 3 of us something would happen, and feel broken hearted everytime I think of Ashley and Colbie.

Jamie said...

Thank you for sharing your story- your book is amazing! I'm having a hard time staying w/the study- I just want to skip ahead! LOL But there is so much in there that I haven't read other places where I'm like "REALLY??? I thought I was the ONLY one who thought/felt that." THEN to have the SCRIPTURE to back everything up...just simply amazing! Thank you, again! I remember your precious babies with you...even those children from Africa that 'grew' in your heart...